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Tuesday, March 29, 2011

Love Language ~The Power of Love ~ Love Heals ~ Love is Powerful ~ Love, Don't Hate ~ Love Reborn ~ Love Communicates



Love Language ~The Power of Love ~ Love Heals ~ Love is Powerful ~ Love, Don't Hate ~ Love Reborn ~ Love Communicates


The Power of Love
Dr. Gary Chapman


Love Heals 
Do you have a relationship that you would like to see improved? Then, why not decide to do something for that person that she/he would not expect. I mean an act of kindness that would fall in the category of 'returning good for evil'. That's what Jesus taught. You'll never go wrong while following the teachings of Jesus.

I know it's not natural. We tend to return evil for evil, but that has never been God's way. When Jesus was on the cross, he prayed for the forgiveness of those who were killing him. Our attitude is always to be one that seeks reconciliation. We don't overlook wrong, but we stand ready to forgive. Genuine love is the most healing of all medications. You'll never know the power of love until you love someone who has hurt you deeply.

Love is Powerful
Love is the most powerful weapon for good in the world. However, many husbands and wives think of love as an emotion. In reality, love is an attitude with appropriate behavior. Love is the attitude that says, "I choose to look out for your interests." Love asks the question, "How may I help you." Then love is expressed in behavior.

The fact that love is action rather than emotion means that I can love my spouse even when I do not have warm feelings toward him/her. If I do or say something that is helpful, my behavior stimulates warm emotions inside my wife. She may not reciprocate immediately, but my loving act has made life better for her. That is what love is all about.

Love, Don't Hate
The world is filled with love and hate. The wise person says, "I choose the road of love because its potential is far greater than the road of hate." Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. said, "I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear." I believe he was right. Some will say, "But she doesn't deserve love." If we do not choose to love people 'more than they deserve', then few of us will ever express love.

Love is a choice we make every day. It is the choice to be reflectors of God. The Bible says, "God is love." That is His nature. As His children, we become His voice, expressing His love whether people deserve it or not. It is love that draws people to God and to us. Look for an opportunity to express love to someone today.

Love Reborn
Can emotional warmth be reborn in a marriage? I believe the answer is 'yes', and it begins with loving actions. If you simply wait for warm emotions to return, you may wait in vain. But, if you choose loving actions, you set in motion the cycle which stimulates warm emotions. I have seen many troubled marriages restored by loving actions.

You may ask, "What kind of loving actions?" That depends on your spouses' love language. In my book The 5 Love Languages, I reveal five distinct love languages:

  • Words of Affirmation
  • Quality Time
  • Gifts
  • Acts of Service
  • Physical Touch
If you want to know the love language of your spouse, listen to his complaints. The complaint reveals what would really make him feel loved. Speak his love language and you touch his heart.

Love Communicates
The first step in improving a difficult marriage is learning to speak the love language of your spouse. I know you would like for your spouse to apologize for all the hurt they have caused. But you can't wait for an apology to start loving. Jesus taught us to return good for evil.

It's important how you express love. If your husband's love language is Words of Affirmation, then nothing is more important than looking for things he is doing right and express appreciation. On the other hand, if gifts is your wife's love language then Words of Affirmation will seem empty. She may respond, "Cut the words. Where are the gifts?" Speak the right love language and you create a positive atmosphere where you can then deal realistically with your past failures. Give love a chance.




The Five Love Languages Profile will give you a thorough analysis of your emotional communication preference. It will single out your primary love language, what it means, and how you can use it to connect with your loved one with intimacy and fulfillment.


There are five love languages:

1. Words of Affirmation
2. Gifts
3. Acts of Service
4. Quality Time
5. Physical Touch

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Monday, March 14, 2011

Love Language ~ Intimacy Grows Marriages ~ The Language of Friendship ~ Don't Drift ~ Making It Happen


Love Language ~ Intimacy Grows Marriages ~ The Language of Friendship ~ Don't Drift ~ Making It Happen



Intimacy Grows Marriages
Gary Chapman


The Language of Friendship
A number of years ago, I started the single adult ministry at my church. Do you know the most common complaint of singles:  "I am so lonely." There is something about the way we are made that cries out for intimacy with another. It is not normal for a person to live in isolation. When God looked at Adam, He said, "It is not good for man to be alone." The word 'alone' literally means 'cut off' or 'isolated'. God's answer to Adam's aloneness was the creation of Eve and the institution of marriage.

That does not mean that a person must be married to find happiness. It does mean that we need people. Intimacy is the word used to describe a close relationship. Intimacy is also one of our deepest emotional needs. It is the language of friendship.

Don't Drift
Intimacy is at the very heart of a growing marriage. I believe that God designed marriage to be the most intimate of all human relationships. We share life intellectually, socially, emotionally, spiritually, and physically. The Bible says that we share life to such a degree that we actually become 'one flesh'. That does not mean that we lose our individuality, but it does mean that we share life deeply.

My observation is that couples who learn how to do that, find marriage extremely satisfying. Those who do not build intimacy may find marriage very empty. What are you doing to build intimacy in your marriage? Don't waste time waiting for your spouse. Take the initiative; ask a question, share a thought. Without intimacy you drift into isolation and loneliness.

Making It Happen
Would you like to have an intimate marriage? Then make time to talk and listen. Plan a daily 'sharing time' with your spouse. Couples who have a 'sit down and talk time' each day have a higher level of intimacy than those couples who talk 'whenever and wherever.'  Isn't that also true in our relationship with God?

If you have a daily quiet time with God in which you listen to Him as He speaks through the Scriptures and then, you talk to Him about what you have heard, your intimacy with God will grow. The same is true with your spouse. You schedule time for lunch. Why not schedule time for daily conversation? Communication leads to intimacy and intimacy leads to a growing marriage.



The Five Love Languages Profile will give you a thorough analysis of your emotional communication preference. It will single out your primary love language, what it means, and how you can use it to connect with your loved one with intimacy and fulfillment.


There are five love languages:
1. Words of Affirmation
2. Gifts
3. Acts of Service
4. Quality Time
5. Physical Touch

Love Languages Personal Profile @ http://www.5lovelanguages.com/assessments/personal-profiles/?profiletype=wives

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Tuesday, March 8, 2011

Love Language ~ Anger Can Be Bad For Your Health ~ THE VISITOR ~ ADMIT IT ~ JUST THE FACTS ~ PROCESS

Anger
 Handling a Powerful Emotion in a Healthy Way
Gary Chapman.


 Love Language ~ Anger Can Be Bad For Your Health ~ THE VISITOR ~ ADMIT IT ~ JUST THE FACTS ~ PROCESS



Anger Can Be Bad For Your Health
Gary Chapman 
When is the last time you felt angry? How did you handle your anger? Was it a pleasant experience for you? How about the people around you? All of us have seen people explode. Many of us have exploded. On the other hand, many people pride themselves in holding their anger inside. But internalized anger is bad for your health.

The biblical challenge is that when we experience anger, we are to process it in a positive way. That may mean gently confronting the person who stimulated our anger. Or, it may mean asking God to forgive us for being so 'bent out of shape' over such a minor matter. Learning to process anger in a timely and healthy way is one of the first lessons for healthy relationships.

THE VISITOR 
Why do people get angry? I believe we get angry when our sense of 'right' is violated. But we have two kinds of anger; definitive anger - when someone has wronged us; and distorted anger - when things didn't go our way. Much of our anger is distorted. The traffic moved too slowly. Our spouse didn't do what we wanted.

This distorted anger is still very intense and must be processed. Here's a question: Would it be helpful if I shared my anger with someone? In sharing it, might I improve things for everyone? Or, should I simply 'let it go'? Whatever you do, do something positive. Don't hold anger inside. Anger was meant to be a visitor, never a resident.

ADMIT IT 
When you are angry, the first positive step is to admit to yourself that you are angry.  Say it aloud, "I'm feeling angry." The second step is to ask God to help you handle your anger in a positive way. "Lord, help me to do what is right and good with my anger." The third step is to ask: Did someone sin against me? If so, the biblical answer is to lovingly confront the person and seek reconciliation.

On the other hand, if you are angry simply because something happened that irritates you, then ask: "What can I learn from this experience?" If the other person habitually arrives late for your appointment, perhaps you can talk with them and negotiate change. Thus, the anger has served a positive purpose. God wants to teach you how to handle your anger in a godly way.

JUST THE FACTS 
When you are angry - be sure to get the facts before you take action. You hear your spouse tell someone on the phone, "I'll be there tomorrow night." You know that tomorrow night is your date night, so you get angry. Before you storm in and say something harsh, take time to ask: "Did I hear you promise someone to do something tomorrow night?" Your spouse says, "Yes, I told mom I'd bring her blanket by. I thought we could do it either before or after we go out to eat."

Your anger subsides because you took time to "get the facts". Often we jump to conclusions about what someone said, or did, and in anger we accuse them. We mess up a perfectly good evening because we failed to ask questions.

PROCESS
In my book: Anger: Handling a Powerful Emotion in a Healthy Way, I asked the publisher to print the following statement in the back of the book as a tear out. My suggestion is that you put it on the refrigerator so that when a family member feels angry at another family member, they can take the card, and read it aloud to the person at whom they are angry. Here's what the card says, "I'm feeling angry right now, but don't worry. I'm not going to attack you. But I do need your help. Is this a good time to talk?"

It brings a little humor into the tenseness and reminds you of what you are not going to do. It also is asking the other person to help you process your anger. It's an easy way to help family members learn to process anger in a positive way.





The Five Love Languages Profile will give you a thorough analysis of your emotional communication preference. It will single out your primary love language, what it means, and how you can use it to connect with your loved one with intimacy and fulfillment.


There are five love languages:
1. Words of Affirmation
2. Gifts
3. Acts of Service
4. Quality Time
5. Physical Touch

Love Languages Personal Profile @ http://www.5lovelanguages.com/assessments/personal-profiles/?profiletype=wives

 
Choose One:

A Love Language Minute


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Building Relationships Radio
Eastern Time Live Stream Saturday Mornings
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Five Love Language Feed



A Love Language Minute 


Relationships Love Language ~ JESUS Enters Jerusalem ~ Holy Week ~ Jesus Washes the Disciples’ Feet

Relationships Love Language ~ JESUS Enters Jerusalem ~ Holy Week ~ Jesus Washes the Disciples’ Feet
Jesus Washes the Disciples’ Feet ~ Last Supper. The Passover with the Disciples. Institution of the Lord’s Supper. Judas to Betray Jesus. Matthew 26, Mark 14, Luke 22 ESV. Jesus Washes the Disciples’ Feet. ....12 When he had washed their feet and put on his outer garments and resumed his place, he said to them, "Do you understand what I have done to you? 13 You call me Teacher and Lord, and you are right, for so I am. 14 If I then, your Lord and Teacher, have washed your feet, you also ought to wash one another’s feet. 15 For I have given you an example, that you also should do just as I have done to you....John 13:1-20 ESV.Christ Reasoning with Peter, by Giotto di Bondone (Cappella Scrovegni a Padova).

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