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Friday, May 20, 2011

GOD BLESS AMERICA ~ Memorial Day Monday, May 30, 2011 ~ Love Language ~ Living in Harmony ~ Making Decisions in Harmony ~ Decisions in Love ~ Help in Love ~ Together in Love ~ Submission in Love ~ Unity in Love


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Living in Harmony



Making Decisions in Harmony
  • Decisions in Love
  •  Help in Love
  •  Together in Love
  • Submission in Love
  • Unity in Love



Making Decisions in Harmony
Dr. Gary Chapman

Decisions in Love  
Most counselors agree that one of the greatest problems in marriage is decision-making. Visions of democracy dance in the minds of many young couples, but when there are only two voting members, democracy often results in deadlock. How does a couple move beyond deadlock? The answer is found in one word - love.

Love always asks the question, "What is best for you?" Love does not demand it's own way. Love seeks to bring pleasure to the one loved. That is why Christians should have less trouble making decisions than non-Christians. We are called to be lovers. When I love my wife, I will not seek to force my will upon her for selfish purposes.

Help in Love
The biblical idea of the husband being the head of the wife has been one of the most exploited concepts of the Bible. Christian husbands, full of self-will, have made all kinds of foolish demands of their wives under the authority of "The Bible says...." Headship does not mean that the husband has the right to make all the decisions and inform the wife of what is going to be done.

She is called to be a "helpmate". The word means "helper". How can she be a helper if she has no opportunity to share her ideas? "Two are better than one," the Scriptures say. That is certainly true in decision-making. Why would a husband want to make a decision limited to his own wisdom when God has given him a helper?

Together in Love
When Christians discuss husband/wife roles they often quote 1 Cor. 11:3 which says, "The head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man." They often stop quoting at that point, but the very next phrase says, "The head of Christ is God."  Obviously referring to God the Father. Are God the Father, and God the Son equally God? Yes. Yet, within the trinity there is order.

As the head, does the Father ever force the Son to do anything? No. Does the Son ever act independently of the Father? No. There is perfect unity. That is the design for Christian marriage: husbands and wives working together as a team, with the husband as the recognized leader.

Submission in Love
I am fully aware that many contemporary Christians reject the idea of male leadership in the marriage. I think it is because they miss-understand the biblical concept of 'headship'. Male leadership in the home has nothing to do with superiority. It has to do with order among equals. God's design is that the husband will love his wife as Christ loves the church and make every sacrifice for her well-being.

Headship does not mean that the husband is more intelligent than the wife. It does not mean that the man is more valuable than the woman. And, it does not mean that the husband is to be a dictator. The great need of our day is for Christian leaders who will love, not dictators who demand. 

Unity in Love
Many wives shudder when they hear the pastor say, "Turn in your Bible to Ephesians 5:22." Because they know that's the verse that says, "Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord."  "But you don't know my husband," they think.  "But you don't understand submission," God must say. Submission is not a female word. Verse 21 says, "Submitting yourselves one to another."

The word to husbands about loving, and to wives about submitting, both call for an attitude of service. Submission does not mean that the wife must do all the giving. The husband is to give his life for her. Nor does it mean that she cannot express her ideas. The goal is unity which requires both to have an attitude of service.





Living in Harmony ~ Making Decisions in Harmony ~ Decisions in Love ~  Help in Love ~ Together in Love ~ Submission in Love ~ Unity in Love




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There are five love languages:

1. Words of Affirmation
2. Gifts
3. Acts of Service
4. Quality Time
5. Physical Touch

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Friday, May 6, 2011

HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY ~ Love Language ~ The Importance of Parental Love ~ Secure in Love ~ Connected in Love ~ Accepted in Love ~ Nurtured in Love ~ Reconciled in Love


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HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY ~ Love Language ~ The Importance of Parental Love ~ Secure in Love ~ Connected in Love ~ Accepted in Love ~ Nurtured in Love ~ Reconciled in Love




The Importance of Parental Love
Dr. Gary Chapman


Secure in Love 
A mother recently said to me, "I don't know if I'm ready for my children to become teenagers. It seems like all teenagers are having sex, using drugs, and carrying guns to school. Is it really that bad?" The answer is 'no'. It is true that 10% of teenagers are troubled and get into trouble, but most of them were troubled children. Good kids don't suddenly go bad in adolescence.

When teens are secure in the love of their parents, they will have confidence to face the negative influences in our culture. In my opinion, nothing is more important than parental love. The teen wants to feel connected, accepted, and nurtured by parents. When this happens the teen will move through adolescence in a healthy manner.

Connected in Love
We've heard a great deal about the importance of bonding between parent and infant. What we haven't heard is that bonding is no less important for the teenager and his parents. Bonding requires time together spent in a positive atmosphere. The opposite of feeling connected is the feeling of abandonment. The teen who feels abandoned will have emotional struggles.

Emotional connectedness requires communication. Where do you talk with your teenager? I'd like to suggest a radical thought. Have at least one meal a day with your family, and share what is happening in your lives. A second thought: Do something with your teenager at least once a week. Follow these suggestions and your teen will likely feel connected.

Accepted in Love
In order to feel loved, teenagers need to feel accepted. The opposite of acceptance is rejection. Research indicates that almost all violent teenagers feel rejected by their parents. But how do you communicate acceptance, when you don't like their behavior? God is our model. We are "accepted in Christ," even though God is not always pleased with our behavior.

The message we seek to communicate is "I love you because you are my child. I don't always like what you do, but I will never reject you. I will always be here doing what I believe is best for you. I will love you even if you don't follow my advice, but because I love you, I must give you my advice. I love you no matter what."

Nurtured in Love
Teenagers are like tender plants that need to be nurtured. To nurture is 'to feed' the inner spirit. The opposite of nurture is abuse. Hostile, cutting, harsh words from parents kill the teenager's spirit. Slapping shoving, pushing, and beating will almost always produce a rebellious teenager. Nurturing parents are encouraging: looking for the positive things their teenagers do and say and commending them.

I do not mean that you sit idly by and let them do things that will be destructive. The nurturing parent says, "What you did was wrong and you must suffer the consequences. But I want you to know that I believe in you. I don't think that this behavior reflects the real you. I think you are a caring person. I love you and want to help you."

Reconciled in Love
David Popenoe, professor of sociology at Rutgers University said, "Children develop best when they are provided the opportunity to have warm, intimate, continuous, and enduring relationships with both their fathers and their mothers." In today's culture, with so many broken families is it any wonder that we have so many troubled children?

May I say a word to those couples who have recently separated, and have children. I know that your marriage is in trouble. I know that the pain may seem unbearable. And I'm not asking you to go back into an abusive relationship, but I am asking you to consider reconciliation. I wrote my book: Hope for the Separated, for you. You will never regret seeking reconciliation, even if you are not successful.








The Five Love Languages Profile will give you a thorough analysis of your emotional communication preference. It will single out your primary love language, what it means, and how you can use it to connect with your loved one with intimacy and fulfillment.




There are five love languages:
1. Words of Affirmation
2. Gifts
3. Acts of Service
4. Quality Time
5. Physical Touch

Love Languages Personal Profile @ http://www.5lovelanguages.com/assessments/personal-profiles/?profiletype=wives
 


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Link:
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Tuesday, May 3, 2011

HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY ~ Love Language ~ Resolving Conflicts: Part 2 ~ You will never resolve conflicts if you don't learn to listen ~ Can you hear me now?


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HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY ~ Love Language ~ Resolving Conflicts: Part 2 ~ You will never resolve conflicts if you don't learn to listen ~ Can you hear me now?




Resolving Conflicts: Part 2
Dr. Gary Chapman


You will never resolve conflicts if you don't learn to listen.
Many people think they are listening when in fact they are simply reloading their verbal guns. Listening means seeking to understand what the other person is thinking and feeling. It is putting ourselves in the other person's shoes and trying to look at the world through their eyes.

Here's a good sentence with which to begin. "I want to understand what you are saying because I know it is important." One man told me that he made a sign which read: "I am a Listener." When his wife started talking he would hang it around his neck to remind himself of what he was doing. His wife would smile and say, "I hope it's true." He learned to be a good listener.

Can you hear me now?
We are all busy. Often, too busy to listen. And yet, listening is the only way you will ever come to understand your spouse's thoughts and feelings. Listening takes time and requires focus. Many people pride themselves in being able to listen while reading e-mails or watching television. One husband said, "my wife insists that I sit down and listen to her. I feel like I'm in a straitjacket, like I'm wasting time."

When you drop everything, look at your spouse and listen, you communicate, "You are the most important person in my life." On the other hand, when you listen while doing other things, you communicate: "You are one of my many interests." Listening is a powerful expression of love.









The Five Love Languages Profile will give you a thorough analysis of your emotional communication preference. It will single out your primary love language, what it means, and how you can use it to connect with your loved one with intimacy and fulfillment.


There are five love languages:

1. Words of Affirmation
2. Gifts
3. Acts of Service
4. Quality Time
5. Physical Touch

Love Languages Personal Profile @ http://www.5lovelanguages.com/assessments/personal-profiles/?profiletype=wives
 
Choose One:

Link:
Live Stream Saturday Mornings


Building Relationships Radio
Eastern Time Live Stream Saturday Mornings
11:00 a.m. Eastern Time Live Stream


Five Love Language Feed


A Love Language Minute 


Link:

Primitive Baptists





Relationships Love Language ~ JESUS Enters Jerusalem ~ Holy Week ~ Jesus Washes the Disciples’ Feet

Relationships Love Language ~ JESUS Enters Jerusalem ~ Holy Week ~ Jesus Washes the Disciples’ Feet
Jesus Washes the Disciples’ Feet ~ Last Supper. The Passover with the Disciples. Institution of the Lord’s Supper. Judas to Betray Jesus. Matthew 26, Mark 14, Luke 22 ESV. Jesus Washes the Disciples’ Feet. ....12 When he had washed their feet and put on his outer garments and resumed his place, he said to them, "Do you understand what I have done to you? 13 You call me Teacher and Lord, and you are right, for so I am. 14 If I then, your Lord and Teacher, have washed your feet, you also ought to wash one another’s feet. 15 For I have given you an example, that you also should do just as I have done to you....John 13:1-20 ESV.Christ Reasoning with Peter, by Giotto di Bondone (Cappella Scrovegni a Padova).

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